Holding Shared Space Across Generations

In our polarizing society, it is often easier to focus on what separates and divides instead of the common ground that brings people together. This is especially true when it comes to the stark differences across generations. But in the Church, we are called to be united by a common belief system and a shared love of Christ. Jesus even prayed that His followers “may all be one” (John 17:21) and the Apostle Paul reminds that there is “One God and Father over all” (Ephesians 4:6).

So what does it look like for churches to hold shared space across generations and make room for common ground among their multi-generational congregations? 

Start With Stories

Everybody loves a good story, and most people enjoy talking about themselves—regardless of which generation they belong to. When you are genuinely interested in hearing another’s personal story and you create a safe and welcoming environment, others are often willing to open up and share about their experiences . Once you start with someone’s story, it is difficult to then judge them based on outward characteristics such as age, apparerance, clothing, or life status. In your church, cultivate a culture where you lead with stories first, and withhold premature judgements from across generational lines.

Name the Fear

People typically fear what they don’t know, can’t explain, or don’t fully understand. Thus, hostilities are often formed across generations when one generation doesn't quite “get” another one. You can hold space for this fear by simply naming it for what it is. For example, older generations might disparage Generation Z for using social media, but in reality they might not understand it’s benefits or how it can be used to connect with others and build communities. Millennials often get frustrated with Boomers for not turning over power or leadership, but they should acknowledge the fears that Boomers might have of getting older and becoming insignificant. When you name the root of a fear, it becomes a shared place of understanding and empathy.

Live into Authentic Community

At the end of the day, the Church is a multi-generational community, and it is best lived into when it is shaped by authenticity. Every generation—whether Generation Z, Millennial, Gen X, or Boomer—values vulnerability over arrogance and humility over pride. These deeply shared values mean more than shifting cultural trends, political differences, or economic disagreements. What’s more, the characteristics of humility, grace, authenticity, acceptance, and hospitality are all traits that Jesus himself modeled for his followers. When the Church is truly living as the Church in authentic community, generational divisions aren’t all so prevalent after all.